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Mistakes to Avoid During Your Divorce

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The team of experienced divorce attorneys at our firm has been providing quality family law services since 2000, and understand how complicated and stressful a divorce can get. Over the years we have helped clients that have been dealing with the contested and uncontested divorces in different counties of Dallas Fort-Worth area. With our experience of working on thousands of divorce cases in Texas, we understand that often divorcing couples make mistakes in the proceedings of their divorce that can affect their future life adversely. While going through a divorce, it is extremely important to make the right decisions at the right time to avoid any complications and stress in future for you and your kids.

 

We have provided here a list of common mistakes that should be avoided while going through your divorce:

  1. Being Unaware or Naïve about your Debts and Assets - It is vital that you know exactly what your financial situations are. If you do not, it could work against you.
  2. Overlooking the Value of Retirement Assets - Even if currently your spouse’s retirement fund may seem unimportant, it may be something significant in the future. Unless you do your homework, you may never know and end up giving up something that could have been of value to you. Make sure you know whether or not you are qualified to receive portions of your spouse’s retirement pension.
  3. Not insisting your Spouse sets up Insurance for Child Support among other things - If you are receiving payments from your spouse as a result of a divorce, having insurance can protect those funds from diminishing in the event that your spouse passes away.
  4. Having Unrealistic Financial Expectations - When a couple divorces, often times assets and finances are allotted to the individuals. When couples want revenge or punishment because of bitter feelings, they may ask for unreasonable things. To the individual, those claims may seem completely fair, however, to ensure that you end up getting some of what you want if not all, it is necessary to make sure what you are asking for is legitimate and realistic.
  5. Not Communicating - There are definitely instances such as family violence and abuse where you should avoid communicating with your spouse during a divorce. However, if there is a way for you and your spouse to communicate without having to involve a Dallas divorce attorney every time, it may save you a lot of money, which could be used along with extra energy post-divorce.
  6. Comparing your Situation to your Friends - Just as every couple is unique in their own sense, every divorce is unique as well. What worked out for your friend’s agreement may not be a good fit for you and your spouse. Focus on your priorities and what you and your family would need for your specific situation.
  7. Choosing the Wrong Lawyer - Many times people think the more money spent on an attorney, the better service they will receive. That is not necessarily true. Some lawyers may be better at certain things than others. Even if you hire a lawyer who is experienced in family law and divorce cases, if you do not feel that you are getting the attention, advice, and services you are paying for, do not be afraid to look into other options. You may want to discuss your situation with a number of attorneys before finding one who fits with what you need. Do not settle for paying more if you feel you are getting less. A good lawyer determines how you are represented in court. Choose wisely.
  8. Settling Too Quickly - Divorces can become very ugly. Sometimes you may just want to run away and sign whatever you need to be free of the process and the other person. However, the terms you agree to may be life altering so it is important for you to gage whether or not you are willing and satisfied with complying to the agreement BEFORE signing or settling to anything. Give yourself the time you need to get whatever advice or knowledge about the process and how it will affect you before settling to anything.
  9. Losing Track of the Bigger Picture - Many times couples can spend months arguing about which person will get what. Make sure you spend your time wisely on the assets that are most valuable both in a monetary sense and otherwise. If you do not care to have it, do not waste your time fighting for the sake of fighting. Focus on what YOU need and want out of the process.
  10. Being Naïve or Too Trusting - Do not look at your spouse or their attorney’s words as being written in stone. Many aspects of a divorce settlement are negotiable. If you are not happy with something in the agreement, do not think you just have to accept it because your spouse or their attorney says the law is on their side. Many cases can be fought from a number of angles. You may be able to make a case that is much stronger than you thought.
  11. Being Unprepared - Make sure you have copies of all your records and finances. It may save a lot of time and money.
  12. Overreacting/Dramatizing - Divorces can be very emotional. However, it is important for you to make sure you do not let your emotions hold you back or cause you to seem irrational. If you make an emotional decision without putting proper thought behind it, you may regret it later. While it is only natural to feel emotional about the situation, do not let them blind you from what is going on in front of you. Be strong, alert, aware, and ready for anything.
  13. Not Seeking Expert Advice/ Ignoring Expert Advice - Even before you start the divorce process, know your options. Talk to people who are experts in the field and see what route will be the best one for you to take. You may not know the law as well as you think, make sure you consider what experienced people have to say.
  14. Refusing to Let Go - It is important to try your hardest in saving your marriage; whether it be through therapy, or simply by trying to rekindle the flame and resolve your issues together. If, however, things are just not working out, you may have to accept that and move on with your life. If you are trying but your spouse is adamant on separating, it may be time to let go. It takes two to make a marriage happen, and it takes two to save one.
  15. Getting Romantically/Intimately Involved Too Soon - While sometimes it may work out, many people who are going through a divorce are in an unstable place in their lives. A transition. It is best to stabilize yourself and your situation before involving other people too soon. If there are a number of unresolved issues with you and your spouse, the other person may become “collateral damage”.
  16. Pushing Children in the Middle - If you and your spouse have children and are divorcing, do not expect your children to choose sides. It is not fair for them to be more involved than you already made them. Try not to bad mouth your spouse in front of your children. For them, you both are still their parents, even if you are not going to be each other’s partners anymore.
  17. Not Getting Help when Needed - Do not feel like you are alone and this is your burden to bear. This may be a rough time for you, allow yourself to express your feelings with people you love or even with a therapist. There are many places you can call to get legal advice if you choose not to hire an attorney, or you do not know how to.
  18. Rushing into a Marriage - This applies to first timers, second timers, and third timers. About 50% of first marriages end in divorce, 67% of second marriages end in divorce, and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. This is not to say you should never get married again, but think hard before entering into a marriage after a divorce.
  19. Taking Deadlines or Court Orders Lightly - Be sure you are one step ahead. Divorce can be a tedious process, if you do not take legal matters seriously, it could become a bigger problem than it already is.
  20. Forgetting Yourself - During a divorce, your life is in limbo. Everything is changing. During this process, it is extremely important to know who you are and not lose track of yourself in the stress and emotions that come with divorce. At the end of the day when your divorce is complete, you will be left with yourself. If you do not know who you are without your spouse, the adjustment to post-divorce life can be very difficult. Evaluate yourself and make sure you allocate time to take care of your needs outside of the divorce. Stress can cause serious damage. Take the time to relax yourself and remember who you are.

 

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If you or a loved one is going through a divorce or planning a divorce, our family law attorneys are here to help you proceed with your divorce smoothly and without any stress. Our divorce lawyers, Sean Modjarrad, Mohamad Said, Amber Shemesh, and Debrah Ochoa have helped clients across Dallas, Collin, Tarrant, and Denton counties of Texas. Our legal team is available for a FREE CONSULTATION to discuss all the aspects of your case and guide you towards the right direction. You can schedule a FREE CONSULTATION by calling 972.789.1664, emailing contact@dallasarealaw.com, or filling out the form on top of this page. We also offer a convenient INSTALLMENT PLANS and accept all major credit cards.



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